A vigil.
The schedule said "Vigil with Mark Adams."
I don't know about you, but when I hear vigil, I think of everyone, standing solemnly in a circle or in rows, maybe with a candle lit, offering pleas to the heavens.
So imagine my confusion when we started in a McDonald's parking lot, of all places. Instead of a dimly lit church sanctuary, we walked across the street to a park bench. We gathered in a circle; there were probably about 20 of us altogether. I noticed that the bench was engraved with a memorial for those who had died in the desert, a fitting place to begin our walk.
Mark, the director of a bi-national ministry that works in Douglas, Arizona and Agua Prieta, Sonora, Mexico, then explained how the evening would work and opened us in prayer.
We began walking along the sidewalk, in a line like schoolchildren. We passed a grocery cart filled with dozens of white wooden crosses, each about 16" tall. Each one had the name of a person across the front, with his or her birth date if known at the top, and at the bottom, his or her date of death. For some, the name portion said simply, "No Identificado": they were carrying no identification.
These crosses represent each person whose remains were found just in this one county Arizona. There are innumerable questions about each of these lives: Why were they crossing? What were they leaving? What were they hoping to find?
What we do know is that attempting to cross is risky. It isn't just risky because of Border Patrol and detention and deportation - though those are all worthy of fear - but because of survival. Nine out of ten women is raped in the journey - NINE out of TEN. And they attempt anyway. Coyotes lie, manipulate, and steal. And they do it anyway. Thousands have died of starvation or thirst, of hypothermia or heat stroke (depending on the time of year), of infections from injuries. And they do it anyway - because what they were leaving is so bad, or because the hope of a better future seems so promising, or because they need to be with family. Or because they need food for their kids.
They try.
And, many times, their lives end in the desert.
So Mark and this group has met every Tuesday since 2000 - for FIFTEEN years - and honors them. Honors their lives. Honors their risk. Honors their hope.
Honors their deaths.
I walked, keeping my place in line, with four crosses in my arms. I glanced at the names and practiced saying each in my head.
The first name was loudly read.
In unison, we all shouted, "PRESENTE!" We call into our minds, into our very presence, the memory of the person we were honoring.
The person who shared this name holds the cross up, pointing it toward the north as a reminder to those of us in the United States that people are dying in the desert. In our desert.
We slowly walk by the cross held high, remembering.
And so it goes. When I am finally to the front of the line, I read the name on the cross as loudly and respectfully as I could.
"PRESENTE!" we shout.

I hold the cross up, with dignity, while each person passes. I hear more names behind me. When the last person passes me, I place the cross on the ground, leaning it on the curb of the sidewalk and join my place in the line.
This continues for an hour. The pattern reminds me of the child's game leapfrog, with the cruel irony of the lives lost. I look down at the birth date on the cross in my arms as I walk. 1979: the year my husband was born. I scroll through the others and am taken aback when I see November 1982: the month I was born. Why were they crossing? What would I do if it were me, trying to raise kids in a city overrun with the mafia, or with so little work we had no food? What would I do if it were my kids on the other side of that border and the only way I could see them was to take the risk to cross?
My attention was drawn back to the physical world in front of me, as we needed to walk across the street to continue on the next block. Up ahead I see the massive gated complex that is the United States-Mexico border. The border checkpoint itself is not a new image for me; my husband is an Army officer, and every military installation has a similar, albeit smaller, gated structure.
But as we approach the border, one crack in the sidewalk at a time, I become much more aware of the statement we are making. We're literally walking the street that leads to Mexico. Cars slow as they approach the checkpoint, and I lock eyes with drivers as they process what we are doing.
Another name is read. "PRESENTE!"
I continue to hold up my cross. By this point, I'm on my sixth cross. They are seemingly endless. Each representing a person, a person who both loved and was loved.
The sun is now setting. The chill has set in, and there was an ominous feel as we approached the border.
I look at one driver. He was sitting in the line, waiting for his turn in the checkpoint. I see him say quietly with us, "presente."
Finally the crosses run out. Each person has been remembered. We gathered in a circle, very near the border, and Mark held the remaining three crosses. A man, a woman, and a 'no identificado."
He held up the first and read her name.
"We remember her, she was a daughter. Maybe a mother. Maybe a sister. Maybe a wife. Created in the image of God."
"PRESENTE!"
He placed the cross on the ground in the middle of the circle.
He read the second, this one a man. "We remember him. He was a son. Maybe a husband. Maybe a father. Maybe a brother. Created in the image of God."
"PRESENTE!"
He placed it on the ground, about a foot away from the first.
"No identificado. We do not know this person's name, but God does. We do know he was a man, maybe he was a husband, maybe he was a father, maybe he was a brother. Created in the image of God."
"PRESENTE!"
He placed this cross between the two, slightly raised, so the completed image looked like the crosses on Calvary.
We shared in reflection and prayer as a group and headed back, picking up the crosses along the way.
There is power in naming a person. These were not faceless corpses in the desert; each had a name and a family. Each had a reason for crossing - I can't state this strongly enough: No one does it for no reason. It's too dangerous.
That night, seeing those dates, imagining the lives each person might have lived, I suddenly saw myself as one of them. It was for no good work of mine that I was born into the life I was. There is nothing that separates me from a 32-year-old mother risking her life to save her children's... except that decision is not demanded of me.
I invite you to take a moment now, wherever you are, and pray for those who are crossing the desert, right now, in this very moment. May we see each other through the eyes of the Divine.
Presente!